It is so easy for us to see our shortcomings when we look in the mirror. Too fat, too short, too lazy, too much, not enough – these inadequacies stand in our way of succeeding in life. However, a new study claims highly successful people are actually quite ignorant of their own weaknesses and it works in their favor.
This recent science study discovered that over-achievers can essentially be really awful at something and they just don’t see it. They only believe the misconception that they can do it. It’s really a trick on the mind.
Take for example, the popular girl in the class. She really does seem to have everything going for her. But, how did she GET there? Was she just born from the lucky sperm club? Did she uncover some secret hidden for only successful people to find?
Well, according to scientists at 2 national universities, when students were tested on their ability to achieve, the seemingly ‘popular’ students actually performed much lower than they thought they would. So, in order to become successful they just had no clue of their shortcomings. Confidence seemed to be the key to achievement – not ability.
But, how do we gain confidence and is it just as simple as tricking ourselves to believe we can do something that we aren’t really supposed to be good at?
According to successful Career Coach, Marcie Schorr Hirsch, often just visualizing where we are heading (while ignoring those little voices inside our heads holding us back) is enough to get us where we want to be. Successful people look to their left, their right and grab hold of whatever those around them can teach. They can learn patience from their wives, study habits from their best friends, leadership skills from their co-workers. High Achievers don’t see these people as someone to be competitive against, but instead as an ally to learn from and then ultimately grow from. This can let us see things from various perspectives and eventually incorporate new ideas into our repertoire thinking ahead to accomplishing our goal.
Let’s say you have been working towards becoming your High School’s Student Body President. It seemed absolutely ridiculous to dream about being so effective and involved in Freshman year when life was so hard and awkward. However, Sophomore year you spent growing your confidence and talking down that little voice that tells you, ’No, you’re not ready for this’. Junior year you listened to your friends, you heard the complaints of the student body, you took it all in making mental notes – listening and trying to grow. By the time Senior year rolls around you are ready to think like a Student Body President because you visualized and focused on your goal. You allowed yourself to glean things from others instead of stand in your own way. It doesn’t matter whether you scored highest on any test to get there, whether you were the most popular person in school, it matters that you saw what you wanted, you worked towards it and now you are ready to take on the challenge – successfully.